Thursday, May 27, 2010

Synching to a New High

Regularly practising stress techniques creates harmony between your head, heart, thoughts and feelings. It doesn't stop there, though. Your cardiovascular system, blood pressure, hormonal system and respiration respond positively by synchronizing.

When in synch, wonderful things begin to happen. Less energy is required to get more done.You feel better - emotionally, mentally and physically. Seemingly coincidental events begin to occur on a more frequent basis.

In conjunction with tutoring, I've been teaching emotional management techniques to a grade three student. As the weeks march on, progress has been noted by his family members and classroom teacher.

Yesterday, my lesson plan included using a Venn diagram to talk about responsibility. As I pulled out the worksheet and mentioned what we were going to do, he opened his math workbook to show me his homework. Guess what the teacher had just taught to the class?

I was not in communication with the teacher, so I had no idea what the students were being taught. Yet, a beautiful example of synchronicity blossomed, which served to reinforce that day's lesson.

Learning is enhanced when the material is experienced in different ways. By integrating the lesson into different subject areas, the students understand that the principles don't just work in isolation. They are better able to make connections and see the importance of what they are learning.

Similarly, as my young client and I work together, he is given plenty of opportunities to practise using his emotional management techniques when:
  • solving a math problem
  • completing his journal
  • studying for a test
  • enhancing his creativity
  • participating in a sport
  • practising his organisational skills
  • honouring his responsibilities
  • interacting with others 
As his skills improve, his confidence builds and his body synchronizes to a new and higher level of performance. Learning these techniques early-on will provide him with the ability to transform his stress throughout his lifetime.

The beauty of these techniques is that benefits can be reaped, whether you are seven or seventy years old. Are you ready to synch to your new high?

Worksheet copyright of Marianna Paulson. For a copy, please email.

Friday, May 21, 2010


You make us laugh, and it is needed

You see our value, when our eyes are shrouded

You make us think; ideas are seeded

You hold our hands, and help us through

You sit and listen, and we're no longer defeated

You sing with us, our spirits are lifted

You believe in us, and goals are exceeded

You are a gift, for which we're grateful

Image courtesy of Deniz Ongar.

Wednesday, May 12, 2010

The Teeter-totter of Your Life


The sound of a school bell reminded me of elementary school and how we would rush out the door at recess, vying for a seat on the much-coveted teeter-totter.

Up, down. Up, down. Up, down.

Rarely, did we strike that gentle balance of being suspended, seemingly effortlessly, mid-air. Supported, yet free.

What is the teeter-totter of your life like?

Down - Buried. Depressed. Deflated. Are you always the one grounded - life is hard, heavy and going nowhere?

Up - Head in the clouds, forever dreaming, rarely accomplishing, floating along without aim.

Or, are you one of the fortunate ones? You found your centre -  your point of balance.

Your life flows. When decisions need to be made, you do so with ease. Your projects are freely sprinkled with creativity. You trust that you are able to apply a higher heart-driven intelligence to all that you do.

This can be achieved by balancing the two branches of your nervous system with in-the-moment stress techniques. Convey signals to the brain that say that all is well; that there is no need to prepare for flight or fight. Learn to circulate positive thoughts and emotions to transform stress.

The more often you do the techniques, the greater your ability to maintain and to quickly restore balance to your life on those days when it seems that you are the last one out the door, missing your chance at all the "good" playground equipment.

Tuesday, May 4, 2010

A Mother's Love

"How to Cut Hair in Ten Easy Steps," promised the magazine article.

Wow! That sounds great!

"Mom, look at this article! May I cut your hair?"

Surprisingly, she agreed.

Chair, sheet, scissors comb and victim, er, I mean volunteer.

Step 1 - "OK, I can do this..."

Step 2 - "Looks fine so far..."

Step 3 - "Hmmm, I wonder if I'm doing this right?"

Step 4 - "Oh, oh!"

Step 5 - "We'd better stop now..."

Well, the article had one thing right - steps. My mom's scalp looked like the well-worn steps of Chichen Itza!

Whatever possessed my mom to allow her inexperienced 15 year old daughter to cut her hair?

One thing. Love.

My mom passed away from ovarian cancer in 2009. I never did get to thank her for all the opportunities she gave us to experiment; whether it was in the kitchen, learning to clean, or even with her own hair."

She taught us:
  • that if we made a mess in the kitchen, it could be cleaned up. 
  • that learning can be messy and imperfect. You knew that with practise, we'd improve. (You didn't follow us around and redo our first sweeping/dusting/vacuuming attempts.)
  • that hair will grow back and a good hairdresser can work wonders! (Thankfully!)
Happy Mother's Day, Mom! Thank you.

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    Thanks to Can Berkol for the image!