Monday, December 31, 2007

Should auld Acquaintance...

My initial intention was to reflect upon the gains I've made this past year. Instead, I would like to raise a glass on the eve of a new year, to toast my family & friends; near & far, old and new and those I have yet to meet.

I am honoured to be included within this circle. Amongst them, they are compassionate, honest, smart, bright, witty, wise, courageous, kind, optimistic, encouraging, supportive, strong, curious, funny and steadfast.

So, here's to all of you - May 2008 bring you closer to whatever it is that will bring you greater joy, health and peace!

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Thanks to Roger Kirby for the image!

Sunday, December 16, 2007

VOLUME

I have premature hearing loss, most likely due to the following factors: genetics, working for almost 2 decades in noisy swimming pools and teaching in classrooms with tiled floors (no noise cushion).

The impact of this is that sounds in a certain frequency are inaudible while sounds in another frequency become amplified and extremely, unbearably loud.

One of my great joys is going to the pool to swim. I've taken to wearing ear plugs because of the volume of the radio - being young, the lifeguards like the music loud (oh, if they only knew what awaits them decades down the road of life.)
Anyway, despite the earplugs and the bathing cap, I found the music still irritating. It seemed with every length, I was getting more upset. (Yes, I ask the lifeguards to turn it down a notch, which most of them will do. On that particular day, one wasn't close enough to ask.)

I decided to do the a technique as much as possible, and after my swim was done, I realized that the loud music did not become the focus of my swim. I left the water feeling calm and energized.

Interested in finding out more? Please contact me to learn how you can transform some of your irritants with "Neutral" and other "in the moment" techniques, developed by the brilliant minds (and hearts)at HeartMath.

For more information, please click: www.changeofheart.ca

Photo courtesy of Richard Sweet

HeartMath is a registered trademark of the Institute of HeartMath.

Thursday, December 13, 2007

What you want...

The other day, a good friend showed up at my door just when I needed a shoulder upon which to lean. We began talking about how, once you start to pay attention, things appear in your life when you need them and if you are open to accepting them.

Reminds me of these lines from a song by The Rolling Stones: "...You can't always get what you want, And if you try sometime, You find you get what you need." (By the way, be thankful that you can't hear me singing this...I'm not known for my ability to carry a tune! Rather the opposite, in fact!) You can thank me (maybe not) for lodging that song in your head for the rest of the day!

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Monday, December 3, 2007

Milestones


Funny, how milestone birthdays make one reflective. These last 2 years have been, if nothing else, ones of contrasts.

There have been some major challenges in health and in marriage and on the other side, some major accomplishments. While the challenges still exist, I prefer to reflect upon the tremendous personal strides I've made.

Everything from launching this business and learning to ride the waves of self-doubt (what am I thinking?) and to "knowing" that this is a right fit for me. I have learned the importance of maintaining balance and also increasingly, to live in the moment. (Admittedly, if I allow myself to "go there", I could easily start screaming and not stop! So, as my very wise mother would say, "don't do that, then!"

The cornerstone to these magnificent changes is the integration of the techniques that I now love to share through Change of Heart Stress Solutions.


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Sunday, November 25, 2007

We All Get Old One Day - We Hope!


It has been approximately 10 months since I've started visiting an 84 yr. old woman who is a resident of a Care Facility. Last Christmas, I decided to give the 'gift of reading' to an individual who did not have any family to support them.

As time has passed, I've come to cherish these visits for so many reasons - initially, it was the opportunity to re-read some of my favourite books. Now, I truly enjoy being able to provide some much-needed distraction and attention to this quick-witted woman. She is also full of wonderful advice. Surprisingly, I feel as if I'm getting more out of these visits than she is.

It does my heart good to be able to do this simple thing for her. It also makes me realize how fortunate I am in still having my "freedom." Something that is diminished when one is a resident in a Care Facility.

My suggestion for anyone who is in need of a "feel good" activity. Go to a Senior's Facility and ask to see who would benefit from some regular visits. Remember, we all get old one day, with any luck, and we may be in a position where we need some attention and friendship.

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Saturday, November 17, 2007

Wayward Sheep


I see my thoughts as a herd of sheep. Since I have been practising these wonderful techniques, the "sheep" are staying together in the flock much more frequently and going where I want them to go.

Every so often, one or more of those "sheep" like to stray. That's when I find myself, (dare I say it?) obsessing or worrying endlessly about something.

That's when the "dogs" have their work cut out for them! Their job is to herd those wandering "sheep" back to where they belong, so that my "sheep" are heading in the direction that is of my choosing.


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Sunday, November 11, 2007

Signalling Change

Driving around today, I was reminded of the following joke: Did you know that car manufacturers are considering making turn signals an option?

It seemed that wherever I went, people were neglecting to use their signal lights. By the time I arrived home, I was more than a little annoyed. However, I decided that "better late than never" was the best practice, so I sat down and used my emWave PSR™ for 20 minutes to help change that detrimental cascade of hormones.

Upon reflection, I realized that I wasn't as diligent as I could have been in applying the techniques throughout my travels today. Yes, I am human and yes, I do have set-backs. The important thing is to learn from them and move on.


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emWave and Personal Stress Reliever are registered trademarks of Quantum Intech, Inc.

Thanks to Dan Shirley for the image!

Saturday, November 3, 2007

Yee Haw!

Several years ago, my sister took our nieces to a restaurant where the servers were dressed in Western garb. After the server had set down the food, my sister prompted our nieces with, "Now, what do you say?"

Without even looking up, Madeline replied, "Giddy-up!"

Life can be like the unexpectant "giddy-ups" - we think we have everything under control only to discover that despite our best-laid plans, things change.

The trick is learning how to respond to those changes so that they are manageable and that you don't get "thrown from your horse." (Yes, I had to continue with the Western theme!)

Fortunately, there are some tools and techniques available for you to "grab the reins" and enable you to have some control over your own "horse!"

For more information, please click: www.changeofheart.ca

Sunday, October 28, 2007

A Wrinkle in Time

I had an A-Ha of sorts while driving home today. Over the years, I've developed a length-wise wrinkle between my eyebrows, which has become deeper with each successive worry.

Glancing in the rear-view mirror, I realized that I was not furrowing my brow as I would normally do while driving. Also noticeable while walking, sitting, thinking....you get the picture.

In fact, my face felt a lot less tense. I attribute this to being able to transform my "stinkin' thinkin'" with easy to learn & apply techniques! Now, I wonder if these same techniques will do wonders on my chin(s)!!! One only hopes!

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Monday, October 22, 2007

A Patient Patient

Dr.Barry E. Koehler. Dr. Susan Kuo. Dr. Brian K. Kwon. Dr. Murray J. Penner. Dr. Thomas J. Goetz. Dr. Bassam A. Masri. These are some of my "regulars". Or, maybe it's the other way around? I'm one of theirs!

I've spent a lot of time in waiting rooms, labs and hospitals and those of you with chronic diseases understand this. As I've sat waiting, I've been witness to the other patients and how they are mentally and emotionally. Some sit quietly, reading or talking - others are toe-tapping, knee-jerking or huffing and puffing.

I've been a "member" of both groups and I can tell you that the latter behaviours do not shorten the wait time, nor does it improve the quality of your appointment when you finally get in to see the doctor. These feelings of frustration, irritation and fear release a cascade of hormones that are detrimental to your over-all sense of peace and well-being and are actually proven to inhibit effective communication.

Instead, cultivate a feeling of gratitude for our doctors who, on the whole, do want to help us. Like the rest of us, they need to feel appreciated for "doing their jobs." I, for one, would like to send my appreciation to my doctors for their highly skilled care and compassion. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.

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Photo courtesy of Sanja Gjenero

Sunday, October 14, 2007

Diving Right In...

I'm happy to report that I was able to get back into the swimming pool this morning, after several weeks of swollen and painful joints. In the past, I would whine (yes, I am capable of doing that!) that I could no longer do a shallow dive, whip kick, egg beater or even front crawl. It dawned on me that I was spending a lot of time focusing on what I couldn't do and very little time on what I could still do.

I also need to remind myself that I do my best each day and that some days "my best" is not as good as "my best" the previous day. Living with a chronic disease provides one with a unique set of challenges...but, like my swimming experience,
it all has to do with perspective.

Which, incidentally, is a key principle in learning to transform the stress in your life.


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Thursday, October 11, 2007

Doggone Stress!

One of the great benefits of learning to control my stress has been noted in the behaviour of our dog, Murphy. Murphy came to us from Doberman Rescue with abandonment issues. Dogs are highly sensitive to the moods of their humans and I think Dobermans are even more so.

Whenever I am upset or get that "tone" in my voice, Murphy runs and hides. He is a great barometer for me to take myself out of automatic pilot and see exactly how I'm thinking and feeling. Well, I already know that it isn't great, thanks to a dog who has literally turned tail!

To improve the climate in the household I take the time (and it doesn't take long!) to practise one of the techniques that you can learn too!

Sunday, September 30, 2007

For Young & Old


I had the opportunity to lead my 8 yr. old niece through one of the HeartMath® techniques when she had experienced an upsetting event. Afterwards, she commented that she felt better and asked me more about the techniques and what I was doing with them. I explained to her that I wanted to share this wonderful information with children and adults so that they, too, could feel better faster.

With a smile on her face, she then asked, "Auntie, am I your first customer, then?"

Thanks to Monica for so willingly agreeing to be my first "customer" and providing proof that the techniques do work well, regardless of age.


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Wednesday, September 26, 2007

Traffic and Stress

Driving to and from work is a bit easier in the summer months, despite the endless construction, but with the advent of September, the rush is on.

I used to be a "Stage 2 Road Rager". I would constantly be muttering (and yes, sometimes swearing!) at the traffic because it wasn't going how I wanted it to go. Imagine that!

What changed it all for me was learning that when we get angry, we are left with the side-effects of the stress hormones for up to thirteen hours.

Meanwhile, that nice (one would assume), but unobservant person you wanted to let in to your lane goes merrily on his way and you (the driver), is left to deal with the detrimental effects of untransformed stress.

Repeat this frustrating or maddening pattern a few times on your morning commute and you're in a "fine" mood for work.

Learn techniques from Auntie Stress (that's me!), to make that commute easier for you and your passengers!

Photo courtesy of D r o u u